Sunday, May 23, 2010

Middle School Drama

Ugh!  We all remember what it's like to be a 13 year old girl, right?

Remember how important it was to fit in, to have the right clothes, the right shoes, the right hair?

Remember how the "mean girls" treated those who didn't quite fit in?

Those feelings stuck with me all these years.  So much so that I dreaded my little Josie reaching this stage of life.

Well, now she's reached it!  Ugh!

She's constantly distraught over how this one group of girls is treating her other friends.  My heart really breaks for her.  I really just want to take her in my arms and shield her from all of the drama!

She's her own person. Which makes me sooo happy!  She doesn't go out of her way to fit in and I think that is why so many kids like her.  She really tries to distance herself as much as she can from all of the drama. 

However, because she's a little sweetie-pie, and cares so much for people, it hurts her to watch this all go on.

She called me tonight at work and was telling me that this particular group of girls wouldn't leave her alone tonight at Youth Center.  They kept on her about not hanging out with this one particular girl, because they are singling this girl out for some reason.

I told her that she needs to just tell them that she will be friends with whoever she wants and that she doesn't want any part of the drama that they are trying to create.

Triple UGH!!!

Any advice, ladies????



5 comments:

  1. Wow, my daughter has been going thru this for a couple of years now. She is 15 and tries to get along with everyone. In doing so, that in and of itself, at times doesn't make her the most favored person to hang out with. Because she likes everyone and doesn't let others sway her one way or another. I am very proud of her for that, but it is hard to see her come home upset because of others hurtful things they feel they have to say. All I can say is your daughter has to be true to herself and be a friend to everyone...even if it's not the "popular" thing to do! It is hard to go thru though for us Mom's! Good luck!

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  2. Oh Dawn, I'm right there with ya girl. I was not bullied, but rather tormented as a child. I had the same concerns for my own girls as they got older. My oldest is now 14 and Praise God she hasn't had to deal with bullying, but the meanness of our time pales in comparison to what's going on these days. I'm glad that bullying has come to the forefront these days and that finally something is being done about it. Keep telling your daughter to be herself and encourage her to surround herself with good kids and she'll be fine. Certainly being involved in youth group is a postitive step in the right direction. And just pray, pray , pray!!!
    xoxo,
    Kim

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  3. That is tough girl can be so rotten! Good luck I am sure it will work out!

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  4. Oh, I so agree with Kim....for many years now, my daughter has preferred being friends with boys, to avoid the girl drama. She hates it, and has done well with it, but she is extra stubborn and very independent. I am so sorry for your daughter that she is experiencing this. Like Kim said, pray, pray, pray......and help her be herself!

    Suzanne

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  5. i was afraid for my son. i have 3 girls and 3 boys, but the one i was most worried about most was my youngest son. he is 15 and he is my social bug and sensative too. he just has a big heart for people and the Lord. i would tell him pray for the people at your school. this made it easier. i feel for you and your daughter and will pray for you two :)
    blessings,
    aimee

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